I was warming up with my partner M, playing against N and S. I was looking forward to catching up with N, since it had been a while since we’ve seen each other. During our warm-up, M said “I’m afraid to play against N.” This gave me pause.
I have always had warm feelings towards N. When I attended my first clinic at Olde Providence, N was there. I was standing in the middle of the baseline, when the Pro said that for the next drill we should “hit it down the line.” I felt confused. Which line was he talking about? There were several on the court. N was standing behind me, so I turned around and asked her which line the Pro was referring to. She didn’t know either – which made me feel better. United in our ignorance, we asked for clarification.
I think N’s originally from Russia. I LOVE talking with people from other countries – partly because they often have such different and interesting experiences and viewpoints; partly because of the lilting accents. You could cuss me out in French and I’d swoon. I also enjoy the fact that when people are speaking in a language that’s not their Mother-tongue, they don’t waste time with fripperies. They tend to say what they mean, which is refreshing.
N and I attended several clinics together that year. The Pros used a lot of expressions we weren’t familiar with. We’d check with each other first to clarify. If one of us knew what the Pro meant, we’d share that with the other. If neither of us knew, we’d ‘fess up and ask for help. It felt like we were giggling co-conspirators on a quest to translate Tennis Talk to Kitchen English.
So, imagine my surprise when M expressed fear of N. I looked at N through M’s eyes, and suddenly I became nervous too. I’m 5’2”, so everybody seems tall to me. However, N is really tall. She looks about 6 feet tall, so it follows that she has a wide arm-span. If she stood in the center of the court, and spread her arms while holding a racket in each hand NOTHING would get past her.
N also has legs that stretch for miles – and she uses them! In the rare instance that a ball gets by her, she lopes across the courts like a gazelle. In light of M’s comments, I became slightly cowed by the straight-talking, imported Russian Glamazon and started hitting goofy shots. Did I really think I could lob someone who could see into the clouds?!
I believe Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” In “32 Flavors,” the great Ani DiFranco sang “someday you’re going to get hungry and eat most of the words you just said.”
I’ve come to believe that you are who you surround yourself with. For the first game or so, I was playing as if I had my partner’s fear of Natasha. I let her comment override the years of fun and kindness I’d experienced with N, which was silly. So, I had to change my focus and just think about N in a different way. I still tried to hit some fierce shots – as I would with anybody. However, letting go of somebody else’s notions made all the difference and I resumed enjoying the match. No wonder they say tennis is mostly a mental sport!